Cassandra Thorburn has spoken out about re-establishing oneself after divorce and the complexities of jumping back into the dating pool.
WATCH: Cass Thorburn & Annaliese Dent dish on their ‘Divorce Story’ podcast
Speaking on the latest episode of the Divorce Story podcast, the 49-year-old said while dating can be fun, there’s no pressure to “get back on the horse” until you’re ready.
“They say getting over someone is getting under someone, but I don’t believe that’s the case,” Cass told co-host Annaliese Dent and special guest, Sexologist Dr Nikki Goldstein.
Cass then recalled how she asked her friends not to play matchmaker, saying: “I don’t think you can have sex with someone and that will make you get over someone else.
“I was very focused and said to my girlfriends ‘do not set me up on dates’. I want to get to know myself first and make sure I’m ok before I carry any baggage into another relationship.
“Even if I don’t want one to be a serious relationship, I don’t want any baggage and I don’t want anyone to feel that I’m using them for that purpose,” she added.
When Nikki brought up the issue of knowing when it’s the right to start a new romance, the trio agreed there are no hard and fast rules, with Cass saying it might be more casual.
“Just because I don’t want to share my life with another person at this point in time doesn’t mean I am not having a good time in my life,” she said.
The conversation topic then segued to the challenges surrounding the modern dating scene, with Cass confessing app culture isn’t something she’s personally keen to embrace.
“I can’t be on dating apps, how unfortunate for me,” she admitted, before later adding: “Whatever happened to meeting people like we did before?”
When Nikki reiterated it is still possible, if not a bit more difficult, to date in the traditional sense, Cass reassured listeners there isn’t a timeframe for “moving on”.
“Everybody’s journey is their own and it doesn’t mean you’re not ‘over it’ if you’re focused more on the children or relaunching a career,” she concluded.
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