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We, as a society, have no problems talking about, portraying, and celebrating male pleasure. But female pleasure has always been a little more mysterious, more elusive.
Until very recently, we simply didn’t talk or care about women’s pleasure. Either it didn’t exist, didn’t matter, or it was considered too taboo – even if male pleasure and orgasm didn’t receive the same treatment. That’s why the conversation around female ejaculation is tinged with equal parts fascination and controversy.
Let’s dive into female ejaculation, the science behind it, and how you can learn to squirt, or how to make a girl squirt.
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What Is Female Ejaculation? What Is Squirting?
Female ejaculation, or more casually known as squirting, is when fluid comes out of a woman’s urethra during sex. The urethra is the same tube that carries urine out of the body, which leads many people to ask, “where does it come from?” Is squirting really just peeing?
Well, yes and no. Scientists are still figuring out what exactly is going on with female ejaculate, but there are a few answers to what it might be.
A major study in 2014 used scans to monitor the bladder before, during, and after ejaculation. Participants’ bladders filled up and were subsequently emptied when they squirted. When analysing the fluid, researches found that the ejaculate contained amounts of creatine, uric acid, and urea, which are also found in urine. This all supports the pee theory and is the reason why Britain made it illegal for squirting to be shown in porn, along with other sexual acts that involve urination.
But scientists have also found other substances not commonly found in urine, like fructose and prostatic acid phosphatase (PSA), compounds produced by the Skene’s glands, located in the front of the vagina.
So there seems to be two different fluids expelled from the vagina – a colourless and odourless “squirting fluid”, and a thick, milky semen-like one. While this might not be the kind of conclusive answer most people are looking for, it does prove one thing: squirting is definitely real!
Why Do Girls Squirt?
Because it’s called “ejaculation”, many people mistakenly think that squirting is the same (or at least, happens at the same time) as the female orgasm. But this isn’t quite true. While some women report squirting during climax, many others can do it before or after, or even without orgasming at all.
So if it’s not an orgasm, what is it? Squirting seems to happen when the woman’s G-spot is stimulated, causing the fluid to build up and eventually get expelled out of the body.
Can All Women Squirt?
There are no solid numbers on how many women experience squirting; estimates range from a mere 10% to more than half. But even if you’ve never experienced any sort of squirting from your vagina, there’s still hope for you yet!
While not every woman is capable of producing female ejaculate, most can – they just haven’t learned how to squirt.
Some researchers have proposed that women may actually create ejaculate every time, but may not always expel it. Plus, female ejaculate can be as little as a few drops or as much as one or two cups of liquid, so unless you’re ejaculating large amounts, you might not even notice it.
The biggest thing that stops most women from squirting is fear and shame. Because the sensation is quite close to the sensation of urinating, many women tense up their muscles and stop themselves before it happens.
What Does Squirting Feel Like?
In the same way that, the orgasm feeling is a little bit different for every woman, squirting also feels different depending on who you ask.
“It feels like pent-up tension, then a floodgate opens and the rush is pure pleasure,” says Sam, a 26-year-old journalist, likening the sensation to a mini-orgasm.
Nicole, a lawyer in her 20’s, described it slightly differently. “It’s oddly tickly and tingly at the same time, then you sort of go into a weird headspace,” she shared.
There are also women who say that squirting, well, doesn’t really feel like anything – besides peeing, of course. “For me, it just feels like you have to go to the bathroom,” says Tammy, 25, a writer and sex educator. “Most of the time, I don’t even know it’s happened. Until I feel the wet spot on the bed, that is.”
How To Squirt During Sex Or Masturbation
If you’ve never squirted before, it might seem like something that only happens in porn. But millions of real women around the world can testify otherwise – you (or your partner) just need a little practice. Here are a few tips and tricks to start squirting, and have some fun too.
- Squirting can get quite messy, so be sure to lay down some towels and have tissues at the ready.
- If you’re worried about “peeing” versus “ejaculating”, simply go to the bathroom beforehand. This ensures that whatever fluid comes out later will be clean, colourless, and odourless.
- Lie down and relax. Stress is a major obstacle to fun female masturbation, orgasm, and squirting.
- Start slow and stimulate the clitoris. Foreplay is important in getting yourself aroused and in the right mindset for penetration.
- Insert your finger/s inside the vagina a few inches and then curve your fingers upwards. You should feel a small ridge-like area in the vaginal wall and a small pressure when you stimulate it. If you’re still a little bit tight or dry, use a lubricant to make it easier!
- When you feel that unmistakable peeing sensation, keep stimulating the area until you start to feel liquid come out. You can keep going (if it feels good), or stop and remove your fingers to let the fluid flow out.
- If you’re having difficulty doing this on your own, don’t be shy to use a sex toy or ask a partner! Toys are especially helpful since some of them are designed specifically for G-spot stimulation.
Conclusion
Squirting isn’t just some porn trick or impossible fantasy; it’s a real, normal, common thing that many women enjoy. The biggest secret to squirting is actually the simplest one: just relax, let go, and be patient with your body. It might be hard initially to shake off the feelings of guilt and embarrassment, but you’ll get there eventually – one squirt at a time.
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