Who should throw my shower?
A baby shower is a bit different from other parties because it’s typically not something you throw for yourself. Usually a close friend, a co-worker, or a relative organises it. If you’re really into party planning or everyone else in your life is just too busy, go ahead and plan your shower yourself—just ask a friend to send the invites and gather the RSVPs. The timing is important; you want to have the party at least four to six weeks before your due date so that you’ll have plenty of time to borrow or buy any necessities for your baby that you still need—and so you’ll actually have energy to enjoy the party!
Who do I invite?
Exactly whom to invite—whether it’s tight-knit friends and immediate family only, co-workers, your grandma’s friend Helga, or even husbands and boyfriends—is 100 per cent up to you and the host. But for the most fun event possible, Jodi suggests inviting only the people who are closest to you, so everyone truly shares in your joy, rather than feeling obliged to attend.
Do I have a shower for baby #2?
Although it used be considered très gauche by etiquette experts to have a second-baby shower, it’s totally okay these days. “A shower is about celebrating the new life—and if people want to celebrate every birth, even if they have 20 kids, that’s fine,” says Cheri, a mum-of-three. If you feel strange about having a big baby bash when you’ve already been fêted once or twice before, consider a smaller-scale get-together or brunch so your friends can ‘sprinkle’ you with love and token prezzies rather than showering you with gifts.
Do I open the presents during the shower or after?
People love to see tiny cute clothes and stuffed animals—but if the pile is huge, gift opening can get tedious for guests or make those who brought smaller gifts feel bad. You and your host should decide what feels right to you, but it often works out best when presents are opened later, says Jodi. “Depending on the size of your guest list, gift-opening can go on and on, and a shower should really be three hours long at the most,” she says. And, of course, even if your guests insist that a thank you note isn’t necessary, you should always send one. (You have up to the baby’s two month birthday to say thanks without being late, according to the etiquette experts.)
How do we make the shower fun?
We’ve all been to boring baby showers where the games are dorky, embarrassing for the mum-to-be, or gross (guess the chocolate squished into the nappy? No thanks!). A few fun tips from mums and party experts:
Get crafty. Give everyone fabric paints and a plain white one-piece and bib to decorate. The best part of this messy-but-brilliant baby-shower activity is that it’s not only fun for guests, but the mum-to-be ends up with handmade keepsakes that she’ll actually use. Leave it casual, or turn it into a contest by having guests vote on their favourite piece and giving the winner a bottle of wine.
Another option: Have each guest write a message or draw a picture with permanent markers or fabric paints on a square of fabric; then, post-party, Mum’s craftiest friend can sew the squares together into a cute play blanket or quilt.
Play updated games. “My favourite shower game is when each guest brings a picture of him- or herself as a baby and you have to guess who’s who,” says Nicole, a mum-of-two. Another matching game to try: Linking up weird celebrity baby names with their famous parents. Give little prizes to the winners of both. Yet another fun option from mum Tracy: “At my shower someone made up a list of traits and had me write down in advance whether I wanted the baby to get those attributes from me or his dad. The guests had to guess what I picked—eyes, dad; IQ, me, of course! It was hilarious, and we all had a good laugh about both my quirks and my husband’s.”
Serve fancy cocktails and mocktails. “A signature specialty drink is always fun and it’s an easy way to reinforce the theme of the party if you have one,” says Jodi. “For a shower with a nursery-rhyme theme, the drink could be called the Itsy-Tipsy Spider; if it’s a book-themed party, guests can drink Tequila Mockingbirds.”
Can we ditch the traditional setup altogether?
More and more mums are opting for parties that feel closer to a girls’ night out than a standard baby shower. Fancy soirées and dinner parties have become popular, as have girls’ weekends away, especially for first time mums-to-be, as they are often the last child-free chance they’ll get to spend with their girlfriends for a while!
Another fun option is the mani-pedi party. Just block out a couple of hours at your favourite salon, or find a local mobile spa service that will come to you and your guests. And one last idea, not for the faint of heart or bashful of body: a women-only group belly-dancing lesson. Talk about celebrating your baby bump! Get everyone matching tops and sarongs and let the hip shaking and belly quaking begin!