You’re taking your child for a walk.
mummy mantra: “I am grounded.”
meditative mOment: Turn your stroll into a walking meditation by syncing your breathing with your stride. It’s helpful to use a phrase that has four syllables (“I am grounded”; “I am breathing”; “I am happy”) to merge your breathing and your stride. “Focusing on a positive statement can help you when you’re having a bad day, and a phrase that reinforces what you’re doing in the moment enhances your awareness and replaces the chatter in your head,” says Francine Hoffman from the Golden Door Spa in California.
You’re feeding your baby.
mummy mantra “I am present.”
meditative mOment Consider your rocking chair to be your meditation cushion, where you focus exclusively on your baby and your breath. “Instead of thinking about all that you should or could be doing at that moment, allow yourself to rest and be soothed by the rocking and quiet time with your baby,” says Karen. Simply start counting your breath. Then, concentrate on your belly and be conscious of how it rises and falls with each inhalation and exhalation. From there, just count—one as you inhale, two as you exhale, three as you inhale, and so on. “Even counting to 10 will help quiet any distracting thoughts,” Karen says. When you get to 10, say your mantra as you breathe out, then start counting again from one.
Your toddler’s having a meltdown.
mummy mantra “I am patient.”
meditative mOment “The more chaos there is around you, the more opportunity you have to work on finding some stillness within,” reasons Kelly. And what better time to apply this theory than the moment when your child is throwing a tantrum? Give it a shot: Instead of reacting by yelling and getting tense, try to consciously relax the tension seeping into your jaw, neck, and shoulders. Take a deep breath; as you exhale, focus on getting rid of tension. Admittedly, it’s not always easy to pull off, but if you can concentrate on your breath for just 10 seconds, it will help you thoughtfully respond rather than automatically react, says Kelly. (Try using the same tactic to deal with a crying baby or kids arguing with one another in the backseat of the car.)
You’re finally alone.
mummy mantra “I am restored.”
meditative mOment Whether it’s at naptime, in the evening after bedtime, or during a few hours when someone else is in charge, you probably have a lengthy list of everything you plan to accomplish during this window. But this quiet time is also the perfect opportunity for a more traditional meditation session. Try grabbing five minutes before you tackle everything else. Find a comfortable place that allows you to sit upright in a supported posture. Close your eyes. As you inhale, say “And,” then exhale as you count “One,” then inhale and exhale “Two,” continuing up to four. At that point, start over. “Limiting your count to four and then starting over again keeps you alert as well as relaxed, because meditation isn’t about zoning out,” says Francine. As thoughts and items from that to-do list cross your mind, acknowledge them, let them go, and return to counting your breath.
Your child is sleeping at night—but you’re wide awake.
mummy mantra “I am relaxed.”
meditative mOment Any mum who’s ever laid awake in the middle of the night knows this vicious cycle all too well: You can’t sleep, your brain is on overdrive, and then you start to watch the clock and panic about how tired you’re going to be if you don’t fall asleep this second. “Quieting the noisy mind that torments us is precisely what meditation is for,” explains Karen. Stop looking at the clock and start focusing on your breathing—allowing it to deepen and slow down. Then, visualise that you’re tossing all of the things that are cluttering your brain into a rubbish bin. “As you imagine that you’re filling it up, you’ll empty your mind so you can fall asleep.”
How meditation works
One reason meditation is so powerful is that it can counteract the physiological effects of stress. “Over time, the release of stress hormones like cortisol can increase blood pressure and the risk of heart attack, stroke, and perhaps even certain cancers,” explains Amit Sood, professor of medicine at the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, and author of The Mayo Clinic Guide to Stress-Free Living (Da Capo Lifelong Books, $19.95).
When you meditate, you reduce the release of those chemicals and increase the release of endorphins and other feel-good hormones. The result: Your pulse slows, blood pressure decreases, and you’re able to clear your mind. According to Dr Sood, most studies testing the effect of meditation on the nervous system have used a minimum of 15 minutes of practice. But a few minutes of deep, relaxed breathing will do you some good too.