And you didn’t want to put that kind of pressure on yourself to fall pregnant?
If something had happened with this pregnancy, early days, it would have been the end of me. Women that go back, time and time again, I think they are made of iron. It’s really putting your heart on the line.
What was Scott’s reaction?
I showed him the test. I have it in my bag now, actually ...
Wait, what?
Is it weird? I’ve never told anyone that. There you go—that’s your WHO exclusive! She carries a pee stick in her handbag! But yeah, Scott was like, “Wait, you’re pregnant?” And I said, “No, I just bought this online! Yes!” Scotty is very low-key though. I could stand there and say, “My vagina’s on fire, get an extinguisher” and he’d be like, “Oh, OK.” He’s chilled. But he’s worried for me, and wary about getting attached. But Scotty is always pretty rock solid about everything. He’s unflappable—and he’s really happy.
Is it still too hard to talk about your loss?
Look, I did a whole stand-up tour on it. I am the type of performer who is very much in the moment, so I never phoned in a show in my life. But every night I would revisit the emotions. It was extremely cathartic, but also torturous. I would look out in the crowd and see shiny eyes and people holding each other’s hands. But I realised that it wasn’t just my story now, it was giving validation to other women who had felt the same pain.
Did it upset you earlier this year when there were headlines about you being difficult to work with – following a candid conversation you had with Wil Anderson on his podcast ‘Wilosophy’?
Yeah. I remember walking away from doing that podcast with Wil feeling so good. And I remember feeling like I was really seen by him. And all I did, again, was tell the truth. What annoyed me was that whole narrative around, ‘Oh, she’s difficult. She’s a bitch.’ because I am not. I’m just flat out not—and anyone who works closely with me knows that. But I am fiercely protective of who I am. And I know exactly what I want. If someone gets in my way, and threatens myself, or my livelihood, or my family, I will strongly come up against them.
This article originally appeared on WHO.